【原声视界】Day 48 5种值得珍惜的朋友

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5种值得珍惜的朋友

5 People Worth Keeping in Your Life

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介绍了5种我们值得结交的朋友：1.正能量的人 2.人生导师 3.敢于冒险的探索家 4.天生的心理学家 5.逻辑学家

Here are five types of people worth keeping in your life. One, the ball of sunshine. Ever heard of the saying that you are a mix of your five closest friends? When you surround yourself with sweet and caring people, you also catch their contagious (adj.有感染力的) energy. People who are positive and unbeaten aren’t just the cheerleaders you see at pep rallies (n.赛前动员会). They can actually benefit your health. Research shows that positive thinking can increase your lifespan, strengthen your immune system, and reduce your risk of developing heart disease. It’s still unknown about the direct causation of these benefits but researchers theorize that having a positive outlook can help you cope with stressful situations better, which in turn reduces the physiological side effects that stress creates.

介绍5种值得你珍惜的朋友。1. 正能量的人。听说过这样一句话吗? 你是你身边5个最亲密朋友的平均值。当你周围都是有爱心的人时，你也会被他们的能量感染。积极向上的人不仅仅是你在鼓舞士气赛前动员会上看到的啦啦队队长。实际上，他们会有益于你的健康。研究表明积极思想可以延长你的寿命，增强你的免疫系统并降低患心脏病的风险。关于这些益处的直接因果关系仍然未知，但研究人员认为，积极乐观的态度可以帮助你更好地应对压力，从而减少了压力造成的生理副作用。

Two, the life coach (n.人生导师). It’s good to have role models in life, especially when you’re young. A five-year study sponsored by Big Brothers, Big Sisters, Canada, showed that children with mentors (n.导师) were more confident, and displayed fewer behavioral problems, such as bullying and giving in to peer pressure than those who didn’t. Young people who have mentors are also more likely to graduate high school and go on to college. Those of us who had absent or abusive parents will especially benefit from having someone by our side who can offer different perspectives and be the support system we lacked throughout most of our childhoods.

2．人生导师。在生活中拥有榜样是件好事，特别是在你年轻的时候。由加拿大大哥大姐协会赞助的一项为期五年的研究表明，有导师的孩子比那些没有的孩子更自信，更少出现行为问题。比如，欺凌和屈服于同龄人压力。有导师的年轻人也更有可能从高中毕业，并继续上大学。我们中那些父母缺席或遭受过父母虐待的人会特别受益于身边那些提供于不同视角的人，并成为我们大多数童年时期缺乏的支持系统。

Three, the adventure seeker. What’s life without a little adventure? When we get tied up in everyday responsibilities, chores and work, it makes us forget about things to look forward to. Be friends someone who isn’t afraid to step out of their comfort zone and travel the world. Together, you can embark on journeys that change your life forever. Not only does being adventurous reduce your levels of anxiety and depression, but it can also make you more intelligent. Psychologists from Indiana University discovered that our creativity and self-awareness increase. In addition, the new cultures, environments, and experiences we immerse ourselves in can cause our brains to think different.

3．冒险探索者。没有一点冒险的生活会是什么样子？当我们被日常的责任，家务和工作束缚时，它让我们忘记了所期待的事情。和那些不怕走出舒适区的人交朋友，并一起环游世界，你将踏上改变你一生的旅程。冒险不仅能缓解你的焦虑和抑郁，还能让你更聪明。印第安纳大学的心理学家发现，我们的创造力和自我意识会有所提高。此外，沉浸在新文化，新环境和新体验中可以使我们的大脑以不同的方式去思考。

Four, the natural psychologist. When you are having a bad day, it’s good to have someone who understands you. Good listeners make the best friends because they have high emotional intelligence (高情商) giving them the gift of reading you well, empathizing, and providing authenticity. You can always count on these people to be open-minded and non-judgmental. Often philosophical and idealistic, these natural psychologists aren’t afraid to ask you follow-up questions that help you tap into the power of self-reflection. Instead of explicitly telling you what to do, they would rather guide you to potential solutions.

4．天生的心理学家。当你心情不好时，有一个了解你的人是件好事。擅长倾听者是最好的朋友，因为他们情商很高，能很好地理解你，产生共鸣，真诚。你可以信赖这些人(他们)思想开明，不带偏见。他们往往是富有哲学和理想，他们敢于打破砂锅问到底，帮助你挖掘自我反省的力量。比起明确告诉你该做什么，他们更愿意引导你找到潜在的解决方案。

Five, the mad logician. In order to move forward, we also must think forward. When you surround yourself with people who value logic and problem solving, they can encourage you to use critical thinking instead of just basking in conflict. If you’re especially the type of person to depend on others to make you feel better, being around logicians can help you become more self-sufficient, responsible, and practical. They are the ones who help you turn dreams into reality. Reminding you that working through obstacles and challenges is much more rewarding than passively daydreaming. Sometimes we are afraid to walk away from friends whose values no longer aligned with ours just because we’ve known them for a long time but it doesn’t always necessarily mean they become our lifelong friends. Don’t be afraid to expand your horizons and meet new people.    

5. 狂热的逻辑学家。如果要前进，我们就必须要向前看。当你和那些重视逻辑和解决问题的人在一起时，他们可以鼓励你使用批判性思维，而不是仅仅沉浸在冲突中。如果你是那种特别喜欢依赖他人来让你感觉更好的人，那么身边的逻辑学家可以帮助你变得更加独立思考，负责和明智。他们是帮助你将梦想变成现实的人。提醒你在困难和挑战中前进，比消极的白日梦更有价值。有时我们害怕离开那些价值观不再与我们一致的朋友，因为我们已经认识了很长时间了，但这并不一定意味着他们会成为我们一辈子的朋友。不要害怕开阔你的视野并结识新朋友。