TLDR: Husband wants me to sleep on the couch because my breathing bothers him, should I just do it or should I tell him we need to find a better solution?
So myself (24F) and my husband (31M) have been having trouble sleeping through the night in the same bed. He is bothered by my breathing, I don’t snore but I breathe very deeply and heavily and usually through my mouth when I am asleep and he says it wakes him up and makes it hard for him to go back to sleep because he is such a light sleeper.
It’s pretty normal for him to wake me up multiple times in the night to tell me that im breathing loud or that I should go blow my nose etc, and eventually he usually asks me to go to the couch around 4 or 5 every night. I go to the couch because I am a pretty heavy sleeper and I sleep anywhere.
This has happened every once in a while since we moved in but this week it happened 3 times in a row and we are both tired and cranky and now he has suggested I sleep on the couch permanently and told me to put a bed sheet on the couch each night for myself.
Now I understand that it’s ok for couples to not sleep in the same bed, and that you can still have a working, healthy marriage while sleeping apart. Im just frustrated because he isn’t really thinking about his position. I have noticed that when he exercises and eats well and manages his stress he never has problems sleeping through the night. I exercise every day and told him that would make him more tired and it would be easier to fall asleep. He also used to take melatonin to sleep and he stopped it, and he tried wearing earplugs for a while but stopped that too because he says it’s annoying feeling them in his ears.
I am just frustrated that he is refusing to do these, what I consider small, sacrifices but I have to make a huge sacrifice of sleeping on the couch. Also I find it ironic because he actually snores very loud and when we first got together I found it hard to sleep but I just got over it and now I sleep fine.
Should I just accept it and sleep on the couch for a few weeks and see what happens? I should I try to fight him about it and see if we can come to another agreement?