【轻阅读，看世界】Considering Separating Because my Husband Doesn’t Clean

To give a bit more context, my husband (29) and i (30) got married a year ago, had been dating for four years before that, and lived together for two of those years. I love him so dearly and truly believe he is my soulmate.

I have always been the one who took care of household chores including things like cleaning, cooking, paying bills, etc. I did it because I did it when I was living on my own and it just had to be done, not because we had an agreement that I would.

After a year of living together I expressed to my partner that I would like him to start cooking meals, especially since I worked full time, and he worked part-time. I never once had a meal prepared for me on days he wasn’t working.

Fast forward to this past year I’ve expressed many times that I need him to participate more in cooking and cleaning, especially without my asking or telling him what to do. I feel like I have done everything from printing cleaning lists, gotten into fights, tried to gently remind him, sobbed and how stressed I am, and all to no avail.

Can someone please let me know if they’ve gone through the same thing, what works for them, or anything at all to help? I’m at the end of my rope here. Obviously I don’t want to leave him, but I feel like he just gets to keep exploiting what I do, hearing what I say, and ignoring it. How is that okay?